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Stuck in a relationship RUT?

Stuck?  Need a relationship tow truck?  Try these ideas. Get information Try to describe, in as much detail as possible, what’s bothering you about the

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Till death do us part? Reflections on Premarital Counseling

As a relationship therapist I often work with couples before they get married. Pre-marital counseling has become a fairly standard practice, if not a requirement, for many couples seeking to be married. It’s a chance for the new couple to identify potential problems before the problems take root; a chance for the couple to recognize upcoming hurdles and clarify spousal expectations. It’s a chance for the couple to begin planning some parts of the marriage before they actually live it.
In this post and the following, I’ll describe some of the issues that I find critical to discuss in premarital counseling. Enjoy!

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Axioms of Relationship – part 5

A few nights ago I was reading Dickens’ A Tale of Two Cities to my kids. We paused for a few moments to discuss the implications of that famous statement “it was the best of times, it was the worst of times.” Relationships truly are the best and worst of times. Your greatest joy and your deepest pain will happen in, and because of, your relationships. The highest highs and the lowest lows are firmly rooted in your relationships.

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