“It isn't even about giving advice. It’s about letting them talk and hearing them from a non-judgmental zone, from a non-zone of wanting to interject, from a non-zone of trying to fix it and just be present. What a gift we can give to them when we can do it.”
- Giselle Armantrout
- Giselle Armantrout
Navigating the Mother-Daughter teen/tween relationship is tough, especially this year.
In this episode of the Building Us podcast, Giselle Armantrout, LMFT, LPC, Licensed Counselor at Matt Morris & Associates, and Dr. Carrie Emonet, PhD, Licensed Psychologist at Emonet Psychology LLC, join co-hosts Erik Garcia, CFP®, and Dr. Matt Morris, LPC, LMFT to discuss how the parent-child relationship changes during the teen years.
Carrie is a licensed child psychologist and has been in private practice since 2016. As a parent, Carrie thinks staying calm is a big challenge. Educating your children is a good way to teach them boundaries and how to deal with conflict. As parents, we don’t do enough apologizing when we make mistakes or ask for input. One of the things that Carrie would recommend is to have one on one time together with your child, especially when there are multiple children in your home.
Giselle reminds us that every girl is different and every girl is going to come into her own at a different time. However, we see that hormonal change happens around the age of 13. By the age of 13, a child’s prefrontal cortex isn’t developed the way it has to be. Therefore, expect that they’re going to make mistakes, and they’re set up to make mistakes in this area. Giselle recommends that we should show our children that it’s okay to make mistakes and to love yourself enough to allow that to be a teaching opportunity.
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